In a message dated 1/7/2005 3:18:06 PM Eastern Standard Time,  
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I guess  my concerns are two-fold, here.
1. Is there an assumption that nursing home  care is inadequate?
2. Is there always a direct link between parenting and  adult behaviour?



Dear Friends:
    Yes, I have an assumption that nursing home care  is, for the most part, 
inadequate. I am a nurse, and have a career in public  health of thirty years. 
I have seen the inside of many things. It's for the same  reasons that I 
don't like babies in daycare settings. They can't feed when they  need to, they 
can't touch base with a family or village heart, they are  regimented, and are 
kept with other unhappy babies/old folks. I know it is  unavoidable. Folks have 
to put bread on the table. 
     I also feel it criminal that our society  (so arrogant at times) misses, 
starves and ignores this time of building a  strong citizenry. 
    I'd rather die home than in a nursing home.
    
    There is often enough a link of some kind between  being parented and 
being a parent. We've lived through what our parents did to  us, and repeat some 
of that style when we become parents.
    Just thoughts....
    warmly,
Nikki Lee RN, MS, Mother of 2, IBCLC, CCE
Maternal-Child Adjunct  Faculty Union Institute and University
Film Reviews Editor, Journal of Human  Lactation
Support the WHO Code and the Mother-Friendly Childbirth  Initiative

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