Celina, your post startled me.  The first time I ever encountered
d-mer was in a friend and fellow ex-pat who had it, I think, with her
first child.  We spoke English together and she described it with the
exact same words 'a feeling of impending doom' that was most intense
about a minute into a feed, and subsided gradually through the course
of the feed, I think she described a sinking feeling in the pit of her
stomach too.  It faded gradually and after a few months was no longer
noticeable.  She went on to breastfeed that child for ages, longer
than most Norwegian mothers I know.  I can't remember whether she
experienced it with the next baby, who was also breastfed.

She was very happy about having her baby and had felt no ambivalence
about breastfeeding, and found the feeling quite disturbing and
unpleasant.   There wasn't much info available about it at the time
but we found what there was, and it really helped her to know she
wasn't the only person in the world to have experienced it.  The other
thing that helps is to know that it always seems to subside over a
matter of weeks.  She felt like it was a kind of flashback but she was
very certain she had never experienced anything that would be flashing
back that way during breastfeeding - and that made it all the more
disturbing to her.

Someone interested in neuroendocrinology and psychology could probably
come up with a way to find out whether there are common features in
women who experience dysphoria with milk ejection reflexes.  But for
the majority who experience it, it's enough to know that the
phenomenon is known and that it passes.

Rachel Myr
Kristiansand, Norway

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