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Mon, 19 Apr 1999 21:34:22 -0400
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Dear Lactneter's-
I had a phone call today when I got to work form one of the mom's I've
been working with in regards to returning her pump. I called her and
made conversation and finally said "oh, why would you like to return the
pump"? She told me that she was just going to give formula during the
day feeds so the baby would "get used to it"! All my red flags went
up... I told her all the usual stuff and then I could hear her crying
when she spoke, she was trying to hide it. In fear that I had been to
"pushy" I stopped and said what ever choice you make I will help you,
but formula is an inferior food and I'm not going to tell you it's o.k..
I then asked if she feels like she does too much work, in carring for
her baby that is now two months old and she said yes. She was still
hiding her tears somewhat but she said her husband can't care for her
high need child, I lent her the Dr. Sears book High Need Fussy Baby...
It's a great book anyway. She thought if she stopped nursing or cut back
on her breastfeeding that her husband would take a more active role in
the babies needs. I said to her you really need to think about what's
important here and make a choice, and once you decide I'll help. But I
don't think weaning your child will make your husband a better father or
the father you wnat him to be and in the process you will loose
something really special that only you can provide. The conversation
lasted about 45 min. I wanted to empower her as a mother. I gave her the
advice I felt deep in my heart as a nursing mother of three, but could
her relationship suffer due to the nursing, would an occational bottle
make her husband a better father? In this case? I felt so strongly about
my nursing and my children that I would have never thought that letting
my husband bottle feed would make him a better father... Sad day...
Please respond with any words of wisdom that are not the norm, I have
given her the usual story...
Melinda Wright
IBCLC soon to be (I hope)
I sit for the exam this July...
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