Hi:
Please read the following email which was posted to LACTNET today. This whole
business about not leaving the house because mom has to follow "all the
rules.", just made me realize that had I thought of it, this was another
CLUE to another Baby Whisperer Mom I saw at BESTFed the other day.
Her baby was extremely tense and fussy and my focus was on getting baby to
relax at breast AND I did hear her say how busy life is with a baby and how
it is difficult to get out of the house with all she has to do AND her
husband works double shifts since baby has been born. Sounded pretty usual
to me, until I realized afterwards she was following Baby Whisperer - EASY
program. Apparently that is why she was too busy to get out of the house.
Just another "clue" for me next time, to help pick up scheduling moms.
Perhaps you already have this awareness, but it definitely put 2 + 2 = 4,
together for me.
Lori
In a message dated 5/13/2002 7:09:42 AM US Mountain Standard Time,
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> Date: Mon, 13 May 2002 08:30:48 +0400
> From: Pascoes in Dubai <[log in to unmask]>
> Subject: parenting books that harm
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> Another fall out from these dreadful, totally UNREFERENCED books is the
> numbers of mums who become completely house-bound by the need to follow
> strict routines. They cant go for walks with the baby in the pram lest
> he fall asleep at the wrong times or even go driving in the car if he
> cant stay awake. No wonder new mums feel overwhelmed and out of their
> depth with a new baby.they cant get out, meet other mums and enjoy the
> flexibility that breastfeeding offers. They are held to ransom by a book
> that tells them when to close the curtains and when they are allowed to
> feed their baby, but gives no support and or advice for when their baby
> just doesn't settle to sleep independently, quickly and alone. Our
> communities of isolated nuclear monopoly houses do little to offer women
> support and friendship and extended family. I want to know how
> unreferenced books by unqualified people can be published? Before we
> discount them completely though we need to analyse WHY people are
> attracted to that sore of style, then we can help them better. If they
> can identify and accept that for the first time in their life they feel
> out of control, in an uncontrollable situation, and totally alone, then
> perhaps we can help them to learn to trust themselves more and their own
> instincts, instead of Big Brother telling them what to do. We need them
> to realise that their uniqueness as a dyad is something precious and not
> something to be bludgeoned out by enforcing uniformity in behaviour and
> temperament. I find these books fascinating to read and I urge you to
> all read them, but borrow copies.dont support them by buying them from
> the shop.
>
> Meg Kingsley
>
> Lay Breastfeeding Supporter, Dubai UAE
>
> E-Mail : [log in to unmask]
>
>
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