Fio,
It might be worth mentioning to this mum that it may still be possible for
her little one to breastfeed, just as he has moved from the Haberman to a
normal bottle, he may move from the bottle to the breast given encouragement
and opportunity. Today I heard from an adoptive mum I had talked to about
breastfeeding just before she travelled to adopt a toddler from China about
3 months ago. Her daughter, now over 2 years is breastfeeding  to sleep and
for comfort. I hadn't heard anything from her in the interim, I assumed that
she had decided not to try breastfeeding (people had told her it would be
stressful to her daughter). It was such a lovely surprise to hear that she
decided to breastfeed and that her little one came to the party.  It made my
day especially since she is a local mum. I suspect that for a while there I
was the only adoptive mum breastfeeding in Australia! There are a few I know
at the moment.
The thing with working with older babies with multiple issues (as adopted
children often have as the baby you describe) is that time is a necessary
part of the solution. All the tricks in the book won't work unless the
timing is right, so every trick is worth trying multiple times over time!
but always with respect for the child.
Anyway, the mum you know may or may not be interested but it's worth
mentioning.

Karleen Gribble
Australia

> This woman's baby had severe oral issues after being deep suctioned at
> birth due to meconium.  She deeply regrets not being able to nurse him,
> but her son has only JUST moved onto a "regular" bottle after using a
> Haberman for about 12 months.  He is also only JUST starting solids as
> his oral aversions have limited him in a big way on that level too.  She
> did work with an IBCLC for quite some time on trying to get him nursing
> to no avail.  She has tried every trick I know of and then some.  I
> think this was one which was "not meant to be"...though she hopes that
> perhaps he might be interested in nursing when she eventually has a #2
> someday.  ;-)

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