Dear Barbara and all,
      Thank you for mentioning the alcoholism/family history connection.
 There are more of us in the world affected than anyone could imagine.
      When I was about 30 my 24 yo sister said to me, 'You know why mom
and dad and our family is so screwed up, don't you?'   And though I had
often wondered and labored about it, I didn't know.  I had left and
didn't look back at 16.     She simply said, 'The alcoholism'.  I
attended counseling with her for a while, and read some great books on
the subject, and at my husband's urging went to more counseling just
before  the birth of our third child.........he couldn't understand why I
was a complete *@#(b-word) to live with after my father called me (for
the second time in my life).
      I have had to learn simple civilty, manners, politeness, and how to
make small talk as an adult.  I feel like I came to the professional
world with a huge deficit, like starting out deeply in debt, with a huge
need to learn simple 'people skills'.
      Thanks so much for your encouraging words, Barbara, 'people can
change, and LIFE IS GOOD'.
     Sorry this is off-topic..........but I can't be the only one on this
list with this kind of struggle.   I am so happy now!!!!   I have a great
(2nd) husband!!!!   Three normal/wonderful kids!!!   I LOVE working in
the field of lactation and helping new moms and families get off to a
good start.........I even think I'm good at it!!!  And like Corrine, now
I can say some of the hard knocks have expanded my viewpoints and
tenderized my heart.
     Susan in Minnesota   rn ibclc
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