A few years back we had a mom in our nursing mothers group who was nursing
one twin and formula feeding the other.  We were just very impressed with
her ability to deal with her twins as seperate individuals who had different
styles and needs. And told her so as much as we could. liken it to the
mother who bottlefeeds the first baby and then breastfeeds the next.
Doesn't mean you love one more.  You just do what you need to do at the time
to stay sane.  I would commend this mom for not bottlefeeding both just
because one wouldn't/couldn't nurse.  I guarantee there will be other times
in her mothering experience when she will not be able to give these babies
equal whatever because they're needs will be different.
Just a thought

Lori Werrell, BA, IBCLC
Leonardtown, MD
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From: Jackie Cantley IBCLC <[log in to unmask]>
Date: Tuesday, January 05, 1999 6:37 PM
Subject: twins, one nursing-one not


>hello everyone.......
>i have been working with a client through the WIC program(a supplemental
>nutrition program for Women, Infant and Children) who gave birth
approximately
>3 months ago to twin girls. One baby never breastfed(although nursed well a
>few times while I was present, and with use of a nipple shield) so mom
pumped
>and gave her breastmilk. She gradually weaned this baby to formula; her
other
>baby refused formula.....then would take breastmilk from a bottle, and now
>will not take a bottle at all. The mom is anxious to wean, partly because
she
>feels bad that one is nursing, and the other is not.  I have discussed
>increasing her milk, trying to get the other baby nursing, tips for giving
a
>bottle, cups, etc. etc. Honestly, I'm not sure about how to counsel her
>anymore......has anyone had a client in a similiar situation??   I loaned
out
>my twins books awhile back........and haven't replaced..........so if this
>issue(guilt over nursing one only) is discussed could someone fill me in???
>
>Jackie Cantley, BS IBCLC WIC
>Pittsburgh(Burrrrrr) PA(where ice skates would have been appropriate during
>Home visits today........no falls yet-- even with a pump, scale, folder,
etc.
>in hand)
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