Thank you for your replies
Wow, I'm feeling slightly silly now for not having been able to work this one out for myself. What wonderful answers and so eloquently put. Believe me, I am constantly reminding colleagues that breastfeeding is an active relationship between two people (and one of them isn't the midwife or LC!) I am lucky enough to  work in a maternity unit that has the Baby Friendly Global Award. Even though it took us years of much hard work, heart-searching before accomplishing the change in practice and arrive at where we are now, I'm well aware it's a much cosier situation than many of you have to contend with. If only I had known 20 years ago what I know now, I might have been a much better mother and have less heartache and mourning for what might have been. It was my personal experiences that set me on the road to becoming an IBCLC. I am only too aware of the practical differences between bottle feeding and breastfeeding and still grieve for my own lost opportunities every day.
Hilary Myers

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