At 08:35 AM 11/22/96 -0500, Patricia B. Drazin, IBCLC wrote:
>In a message dated 96-11-21 11:28:18 EST, you write:
>
><<  If we
> cannot get Joey back on her breast, she is considering weaning both of them
> because she is afraid of how her relationship would be affected.  She does
> say that Joey is much happier with bottles.  I was fearing breast aversion
> with him, being forced on like she had to do to avoid more trauma.

>   while not perfect ( tis not a perfect world) bf one and providing bm for
>the other may be an equatable compromise.. they both get some plusses... if
>the one is happier with a bottle well... better he should get bm than abm...

Not to mention that one day Joey may just decide the breast looks pretty
good.  There's a mother on parent-l with 6 adopted children, one of whom was
very abused and antisocial when adopted.  The mom always held her close
while feeding and never let the child hold her own bottle even though social
workers viewed holding it as a major developmental milestone that moms
should strive for.  :-/  One day that little girl latched on to the breast.
I would never compromise my milk supply by willingly weaning, especially
when one is nursing well and the other is getting expressed milk.  She'll be
very happy that she didn't wean if he ever latches on.

Kate

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are guinea pigs in the biggest human nutritional field experiment ever
conducted.- Arly Helm

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