On Friday 27 December 2002 14:41 pm, Automatic digest processor wrote:
> Thanks, Kate, for a wonderful post.  This is a frustrating situation
> for those of us who continually work to empower young women to stand
> up for themselves.  There is an infertility specialist physician in
> our area who also "forbids" his patients to see a lactation consultant
> either in the hospital or after going home!  He threatens them with
> dropping them as patients if they "disobey" his commands.  He also
> yells at his patients if they gain more than 15 pounds during the
> pregnancy.  When I spoke to one expecting couple, they raved about
> this doctor who "gave" them their first baby after years of
> infertility.  The dad said he didn't appreciate his wife crying after
> every doctor visit, but they would tolerate it just to keep him as
> their doctor because he (the doc) was able to get them pregnant twice.
> UGH.

UGH indeed.  That is emotional blackmail pure and simple.  That doctor
in particular has met a very vulnerable need for his clientele and it is
quite easy for me to see how people could fall into a "I'll do anything
I must to keep him happy with me" mindset.... and that magnifies the
horrendous abuse of power it is for a MD (or anyone else!) to pull the
"If you don't do what you are told I will fire you" card.  Totally
unacceptable.

--
Elisa H. Casey, RN, BSN
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