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The kid is a billionaire at 27 years old, and he is male, that may answer
the immature question.

On Mon, Feb 6, 2012 at 6:28 AM, Jennifer Tow, IBCLC <[log in to unmask]>wrote:

> Dear Facebook Management,
> I have gone round and round in my head trying to compose a letter to you
> that will address, in some meaningful way, the confounding behavior of your
> staff towards women on Facebook. What eludes me is any rational motivation
> for your actions that I might intelligently address or debate. The
> contradictory actions of your staff, when addressing issues that are of
> significance to the women who use your site have an almost arbitrary,
> adolescent tone to them.
>
> Given that 58% of your users are women and that women use social media far
> more actively than men, one might think you would have an interest in
> treating women with respect and dignity. Yet, based upon the actions of
> your staff, there appears to be an unwritten guideline that it is perfectly
> acceptable for images to be posted on FB that display womens’ bodies as
> objects of male sexual desire, commentary and misogynistic denigration.
> Images of women whose bodies are displayed solely for the pleasure of men
> can be found effortlessly on FB simply by typing in keywords that are
> commonly used by prepubescent boys to describe women’s breasts.
>
> By contrast, your staff appears to have taken quite the opposite attitude
> when women share images of themselves nursing their children. Pages that
> are designed to support and educate nursing mothers, allowing them to gain
> confidence, reflect their pride and even communicate their pleasure in the
> wondrous physiologic purpose of their own breasts are hassled, harassed and
> shut down. Even on personal pages, mothers are harassed for posting images
> of their children at breast.
>
> An obvious conclusion one might draw from the actions of your staff,
> actions which appear to contradict your own policies, is that the
> eight-member all-male Board of FB is uncomfortable with images of women
> taking pleasure in the nature of our bodies, our babies and our selves as
> mothers. A pleasure that does not include you. A pleasure that reflects our
> sexuality but is in no way sexual. Perhaps the idea that women truly
> delight in feeding and nurturing our babies at our breasts is disconcerting
> to you in some way.
>
> Whatever might be going on in your own minds about this, I would like to
> suggest that you…for lack of a better way to say it…grow up. Having
> stewardship over one of the most significant social tools used in the world
> today is not a role for adolescents or condescending bureaucrats. It is a
> role that ought to reflect intelligence, leadership and the
> forward-thinking creativity that put FB on the map to begin with. Like it
> or not, you are in the position to effect great change or inflict ongoing
> harm.
>
> The normalization of breastfeeding is surely one of the most significant
> public health issues of this century and you are uniquely positioned to
> catalyze a shift in the right direction by doing what all of us should do,
> and ignore images of nursing mothers, unless they are personally meaningful
> to us, just as we do with the millions of other ordinary images we see
> every day. The posting of a nursing photo is no different from the posting
> of an image of a child being fed or nurtured in any other way. It is no
> more significant to FB than a child at a birthday party, at the beach, in a
> swing. It is just life, the normal, everyday life of millions of women and
> children. By instructing your staff to simply react in no greater way to
> images of nursing children than they do to any other ordinary photo, a very
> important shift will occur. And the staff of FB will have grown into their
> stewardship in a responsible and meaningful way.
>
> Best Regards,
> Jennifer Tow, IBCLC, USA & France
> Intuitive Parenting Network, LLC
> holisticibclc.blogspot.com
> [log in to unmask]
>
>
> Jennifer Tow, IBCLC, France
> Intuitive Parenting Network, LLC
>
>
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