Dear Lactnetters,

I just had a funny story to share with you about a friend I made while in
Lamaze class, almost 2 years ago.  We talked during class breaks, but really
struck up a friendship when she called my agency with BF question, and was
referred to me.  We have really been there for each other through BF and
parenting issues, with our first children.  She is definitely not a quiet
person, and when she believes in something, she will let everyone know how
great it is, and yes, that includes BF!  She has never met a stranger, and
will talk to anyone!   Anyway...

She went to her doctor's office for something, and asked if it was OK to get
a flu shot while still nursing.  The receptionist said she would check.  My
friend sat down and then overheard the receptionists whispering 'how old IS
that baby, she's STILL nursing!!!'  Before she could plot a clever comeback,
the Dr. came out and told her it was fine to get a flu shot (she is a social
worker that works with the elderly).  In a very LOUD response, she replied,
'Oh good, I was worried because I really am committed to nursing, but am
concerned about being protected.  I have been learning that there are so many
benefits to long term nursing, even though the duration in this country is
very short.  I understand that the rest of the world continues BF even to 4
and 5 yrs.  I'll bet where you come from (Dr. is from India), babies nurse a
long time.'  'Oh yes,' he responded, and continued the conversation with a
very positive stand on long term nursing.  She said the receptionists didn't
say a word on her way out!

The next day, she went to her Ped office for her daughter's regular check up,
only to find her Dr (very supportive of BF) out with back trouble, and a
Physician's Assistant (?) in her place.  This young man asked her about her
daughter's diet.  My friend said she eats OK, is sometimes picky, but her
growth is good, and since she still nurses her quite frequently, that she
doesn't really worry too much about it.  He then went on to ask EXACTLY how
much she did nurse, and she said that she really doesn't keep track,  and
some days more than others.  Well, he went on to recommend that she REALLY
needed some whole cow's milk in her diet, because the fats were very
important for her growth.  As her husband shrunk back in to the corner, my
friend said, "are you trying to say that milk from a cow can better meet my
daughter's needs than milk from me?"  Her husband reported that the PA turned
sheepishly white and started stuttering in his responses.  He quickly left
that subject, and the room!

I expect her to run into these situations more and more since she is nursing
a toddler in a society that doesn't easily accept that concept.  I couldn't
be more proud of a 'lay' person's response to either of the situations!  I
take most of the responsibility for her BF information, but was amazed at how
much has actually rubbed off!  Individually, we really can make a difference!
;-)

Sandy Arnold, IBCLC
Bloomington, IN