Dear Friends:
Liz speaks truth.
I remember feeling "huffy" about what I heard a client say about another LC.
I got on the righteous horse, and even discussed the topic with some other
people! Eventually, I did get to speak to the LC in question and we discussed
the matter in a professional and collegial fashion. I learned a lot.
And then there was the time that another LC told people what I had told to a
mother..........
I pray that folks come to me directly with reactions or questions. It is
painful when they do not, when they discuss among each other privately what they
believe to be true, hiding their questions and judgements from the one
person that needs to learn by hearing them! (Such a private email dialogue escaped
to a local LC list......very interesting. Very painful to all involved.
Lesson: beware of the quick click to reply!)
I beseech each one of you to go to the person involved and find out the
other side. The benefits of deepened, intimate relationships are valuable, and
outweigh any momentary discomfort at starting an intense conversation.As Liz
suggests, there are respectful ways to begin, "I had a mother who quoted you as
saying "x".....how did she get that idea?"
Great lessons are those that come as consequences of mistakes because the
other person speaks honestly and immediately of an error.
(Maybe someday, I won't make mistakes any more?? Every other LC in town that
I know has reached that happy and exalted state! Not me....no never, ever
me. )
Only once, in over 30 years, have I found what was said to be true and what
was actually true to be close enough for satisfaction. Very interesting. All
the communication was done in a Liz-worthy professional spirit of respect,
disagreement, and openness.
warmly,
Nikki Lee RN, BSN, MS, Mother of 2, IBCLC, CCE, CIMI
craniosacral therapy practitioner, Elkins Park, Pennsylvania USA
_www.myspace.com/adonicalee
In a message dated 5/27/2008 5:50:03 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
[log in to unmask] writes:
Personally, I think the first (and best) tack to take is to square your sho=
ulders, take a deep breath, and -- with your very best manners, profession=
al demeanor, and offering evidence-based support -- contact the Bad IBCLC, =
and raise in an informal way your concern about the report you heard from t=
he mother regarding the advice she had been given. ("I was surprised when =
Mom told me you had suggested she nurse through the pain of bleeding nipple=
s. Did she misunderstand you? Would you like to see an article I just rea=
d about preserving lactation when there is nipple injury? I'd hate to see =
another mother get the wrong message again.")
Yeah -- she may huff and puff and slam the phone down on you. But I'm will=
ing to bet she'll think about what you said.
_ (http://www.myspace/adonicalee)
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