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"Paula M. R. Hart" <[log in to unmask]>
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Wed, 11 Feb 2004 12:11:12 -0500
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At 02:57 PM 2/7/2004 -0500, you wrote:
>It's Chloe Fishers, "Coping With the
>First Week" and in it a mom is being helped with latch, totally hands-off
>helping, and she has to repeat latching several times.  Moms have come back to
>class and said it is a great film but they hated the part where mom is
>"made" to
>keep trying with latch.  I learned to point out after the first time I heard
>this that yes, it's hard to be told you're not doing something right, but the
>midwife is only trying to prevent future problems.  I also remind them
>that the
>baby in the film doesn't even feed until correctly latched.
>
>I would guess these particular moms who object to this practice of latching
>see it as criticism and would need lots of TLC and acknowledgement of their
>frustation and even, anger, about working on latching.  It's interesting to me
>how frequently moms and moms-to-be aren't/don't think about baby and the
>effect
>of things on him, but are so caught up in themselves.  These are the moms that
>need lots of stroking and ego building, I think, and I often mentally have to
>remind myself not to get miffed with what often seems like
>childish/narcisstic behavior.
>
>Barbara Latterner, BSN, RN, IBCLC

I saw this video as a pregnant mom in a class before I became more
knowledgeable about bf and "correct" latch.  Like these women I did not
like that part of the tape.  To be honest, I thought the latch looked great
and couldn't figure out why they kept wanting her to change it.  I now see
it differently.  I just wanted to point out that sometimes the mother sees
it as fine because she does not realize how much better it could be.  It
reminds me of elementary school handwriting lessons.  I saw my way of
holding the pencil as good enough and resented the teacher wanting to
change it.  Still do.  Just a thought.

Paula Hart
Charleston, SC

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