Guess I came across too cavalier with my post on reactive depression and the
"two week" statement.  I by no means feel that grief can be over in two
weeks, nor is this what the "2 week" guideline means.  It is a means of
assessing whether intervention is needed (it could be needed before 2 weeks)
but if symptoms of depression, acting out, etc.  go on and on, then help is
probably needed to sort things out and try to get to the root of the problem.
 This means rather than taking the attitude of "things will get better" or
"pull yourself up by your bootstraps," or "she could get better if she only
wanted to," someone recognizes the need for intervention to help alleviate
the pain.

I'm not even a believer in meds, though sometimes, they are necessary and
literally save lives.   Therapy, counseling, whatever type of help seems
appropriate for that particular person, should be offered so the suffering
need not go on unrelieved and "unlistened to."   Guess, I should respond more
carefully next time; I've been there, so am hardly insensitive to depression
and loss.

Barbara Latterner

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