Even after we explain the "risks of not breastfeeding" (or as I have seen it 
written....the disadvantages of not breastfeeding)we still have to meet that 
mother where SHE is and go with HER goals and NOT ours as breastfeeding 
supporters (no matter what the credential). Sometimes women change their 
goals (either for or against) and our role is to facilitate her wishes NOT to 
push our own agendas.

The same happens with doulas on occasion. If the doula pushes HER agenda, 
the mother loses. If the doula gives the mother (and father) her total all to 
support the mother's wishes (and they may change) then it is a win-win for all.

Each of us comes at our approach to breastfeeding through our own positive 
or negative experiences. We ALL have to remember to take that step back 
and meet that particular mother where she is: not to expect that mother to 
meet us where we are coming from.

Betsy Riedel RNC, IBCLC
Connecticut

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