Joy:

 first and formost I think that it is mom's decision NOT the physicians...

 My recollection is that HIV is infact a VERY VERY fragile virus. There is one
study that showed that when put into pumped milk it was gone before they had a
chance to look for it.

  I am also uncomfortable with the physician's implicatation that mom can not
"safely" or effectively home heat treat.

  I would quess that many on this list have a one time or another been
involved in careing for someone and haveing a "professional" treat them like
they were an imbicle..

   { I appologize if this steps on anyones toes... I have recently had such an
experience and am still feeling rather sensitive about this}

   It is her baby if she wants to do this... I would support her in any way I
could.

           Patricia