Heather, thanks for your positive feedback.

I wonder, though, how many virgins have complained about being sore after
their first few experiences with penetration, and have THEY been told it
happened because they "allowed" their partner inside too long, or that they
"allowed" him to thrust too many times or whatever?

I apologize to anyone who thinks I've made an unfair or distasteful analogy
here, but this baloney about "allowing" a limited amount of time for what
should be a loving, bonding activity just blows me away....



>> It just helps us to better understand why limiting
>>suckling time doesn't help sore nipples (as Carol L'Esperance showed us
>>nearly 20 years ago and recently reminded us) and why good positioning
>>*does* help sore nipples.
>
>
>Absolutely.
>
>So is it not absolutely *disgraceful* (can't think of a better word) that
>mothers are *still*  being told at every level of 'expertise' to limit the
>time at the breast to prevent soreness?
>
>I mean, I get mothers calling who are apologetic, because they've been told
>their sore nipples are their fault, because they have 'allowed' the baby to
>suck 'too long'......
>
>It used to be that mothers were given 'permission' to feed for 1 min per
>side on the first day, 2 mins on the second day (or some such arbitrary
>limit) and thank goodness I haven't heard that for at least 15 years....but
>they are still warned not to keep their babies on 'for too long', whatever
>that means....
>
>Heather Welford Neil
>NCT nfc Newcastle upon Tyne UK
>
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