> My main point to my response is that LLL Leaders and LCs are NOT
> responsible if a mother quits. If someone tells you or anyone else that she
> quit because she didn't get a return call, she might as well say that she
> didn't have enough milk. It is just an excuse. Why didn't she call again!
I agree Debbie. :-) I would still feel sad though. Sad that she
didn't have the guts, partially, but sad because I know what it's
like...I know that for myself, calling someone is a BIG THING. I HATE
doing it. I actually enjoy getting the calls myself, but I hate the
idea of bothering someone at home. I have solved all my nursing
problems online, where I know people respond when they can and when it's
most convenient for them. Including thrush, nursing strike, OSS/OALD,
and blocked ducts. So I feel for these people who don't call back,
because to be totally honest, although I REALLY REALLY wanted to
breastfeed, I am not sure that I would have made it without the internet
because of my phone-phobia (well, it's not quite that, but it's close).
I waited until my daughter was born and I *had* to take the plunge
before calling the local LLLL to ask when the monthly meetings were.
She was 3 days old and we were having sore nipples but I didn't call
before the day of the meeting because I couldn't bear to bother anyone
at home. Sad. :-( Had I gotten a machine I might not have had the
guts to leave a message...and I might not have had the stamina (so to
speak) to call another LLLL instead. I prefer to pass unnoticed in life
I guess. Internet is different because no one knows me from a sac of
beans. ;-) I call my mom no problem (but she only nursed me 7.5 mos
and didn't have any of the above problems except undiagosed OSS/OALD
probably)...but I don't even feel comfortable phoning my cousin (who is
a LLLL by the way) to ask for help or at any time of the day or
whatever, just because I know that she (like many other LLLL's) has
kids, has a LIFE, has *3* kids, is probably putting them to bed
sometimes, or reading stories, or cooking, or (fill in the blank). I
just don't LIKE phoning. So I can empathize about not calling back.
:-)
> Many times I have met moms who say they tried to get help with bf'ing, but
> gave up due to misinformation, not getting a return call, whatever... and
> then after talking with me, decided that "if only they had known me then,
> they would have been successful"
I realize it is. I don't think that N. (the lady) necessarily would
have succeeded at bf had she known me. She might not (like I say) have
called, or I might not have been able to solve the problem (esp. as her
daughter is similarly aged as mine is, and I was at a similar place in
life as she was, so not necessarily "more knowledgeable"), and even if
I'd referred her to someone else, she might not have called THEM, or
clicked with them, or whatever...but she MIGHT have. And NOW that we
know each other...she DOES know that she could call me next time around
(if there is a next time). At least she knows it, even if she might not
do it.
Fio.
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