Dear Pam and all,
     I echo Kathleen's answer.  It is the mother's business how long she
nurses her baby and she does not need to explain to anybody.  The
extended family doesn't need to know how long she nurses.
      Reminds me of a call I got in the office a couple of weeks ago.
This young mother asked me how long she could hold the baby.  I told her
until he is about 10 years old, then he won't want it as much.  Further
into the conversation she said her mother in law was giving her a hard
time about spoiling the baby by holding him so much.  I told her first
that baby's need nurturing and feel at home and safe close to mom or
dad's warm soft body and heart beat and voice and that the world is such
a strange place; then said that the mother in law had her turn in raising
her babies, now it is your turn and you can do it the way you want to and
you don't have to advertise to the whole family all that you do with your
baby.  She was relieved because she loved holding her baby close and
often.
     Reading the book Boundaries that Lisa Marasco recommended at the
Wisconsin WALC conference last March helped me to answer this mother.
Thank you, Lisa!

     Susan in Minnesota   rn ibclc

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