Pat:

 part of this issue is the matter of spoiling the child... there are still
many who believe that if you handle, cuddle let the child sleep with you then
you will spoil him/her... pnp in my office today told of how often she and
her husband are looked at and "spoken to" about bringing their baby into the
bed... GRRRRRRRRR

  we ( americans) are deathly afraid of commitments and dependance.

      Patricia