We do have evidence that fear of loss negatively impacts parental 
attachment....from research on the attachment of foster parents to their 
children. The more children a carer has had and lost the less able they are 
to attach to subsequent children (and the poorer the outcomes for the 
children). There's very little research on parent-child attachment- the 
assumption has been that parents don't have an issue. I disagree.
Karleen Gribble
Australia

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Subject: [LACTNET] Jan Barger:  What a beautiful post!

> Who knew (purple) duct tape was the key to a happy family?   ha ha
> I don't understand these 2 extremes, either.  Distant from the baby so as 
> not to spoil them, then hovering too much during the childhood years.  I 
> read in a Ladies Home Journal several years ago that mothers who know they 
> are returning to work often hold back on their bonding in anticipation of 
> the pain of separation from the baby during the work day.  Wish I had 
> saved that article.   Sometimes I give parents permission to keep baby 
> close with the following words 'You've been waiting 9 months for your 
> baby - enjoy him/her!'
> Susan in Minnesota
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