Jennifer,
Having conversations over the internet can be so frustrating! I think we are
all kind of saying the same thing but it isn't coming across that way over
cyberspace.

I am not saying WE adults teach babies to communicate. They have a natural
instinct to sound the alarm. To say to the world - something is wrong, I
have a need, it needs to be attended to and I need help. As we respond,
which is the natural good order, they learn more and more with each response
that the world is a good place, these people are here to take care of me, I
am safe, I am loved. 

I wasn't saying they don't have the wiring or intuition or instincts in
born. Just as a mother doesn't have to "Learn" to make her milk let down
when her baby roots or sucks, it is a natural response. So is the dance
between mother and baby. Baby makes noise, mama comes or shifts, or focuses
to her little one. It becomes so seamless that sometimes mother anticipates
baby's cues. I am in no way saying that we "teach them a new language". The
idea of the "4th trimester" is that we are trying to speak the language of
movement and noise that they (babies) are already used to. Apparently, not
everyone views the 4th trimester idea that way.

Forgive me, I live in the Buckle of the Bible Belt/Southern USA where health
food stores are not always easy to find. If they are found, a mother may
have never been in one and may certianly not have ever shopped there. They
may think you are a freaky hippie just for suggesting it (which I do
regardless, but that's just me). And then you have the whole going against
the doc who probably hasn't ever heard of it and reinforces the idea that
you are a hippie and recommending unproven hippie herbs and tinctures for a
baby. CT is an entirely different world from TN.

Besides, speaking of evidence, do we have any evidence that Bach Flower
remedies work for calming babies and have no side effects? I still have much
to learn about the lactation world but I was unaware of studies involving
Bach remedies (which we use in our family) and infants/children.

CST is another matter all together. You would think with a prominent
teaching hospital here (Nashville, TN, USA), you would have no problem
finding capable practitioners. I was basically patted on my head and sent
home by the ENT at Vanderbilt University Hospital when I brought my VERY
posterior tongue tied son in...I had to go to a modest office in my little
country county to find a willing, knowledgeable doc.....just trying to find
someone to provide a specific therapy can be difficult depending where you live.

The thing is with babies and young children, it is a guessing game. While
some might say bodywork and CST, some others would say allergies to dairy,
wheat, corn etc in mother's diet, others would say toxic chemicals in the
world, in the home, still others would say a host of other things. As a
parent with a hurting baby, you just keep trying solutions until one seems
to work. I completely agree that you just keep searching until you find out
what it is. However, I do also believe in temperament and children who have
strong, engaging personalities from day one. (Which is a good trait if you
ask me! I have two of those kind of kids!) I hope more and more parents are
out there asking questions and finding out how to best help their babies and
children. I think it is growing and our world will be better for it.

Micky Jones, BS, CLE,CLD, CHBE
www.mochamilk.blogspot.com

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