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Jo-Anne Elder <[log in to unmask]>
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Mon, 14 Jul 2008 20:09:40 -0300
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> Date:    Sun, 13 Jul 2008 20:48:24 -0400
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> Subject: Wine and breastfeeding a 6 month old.
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> I have permission to post. Got a phone call this afternoon from an old friend who has recently moved upstate to live close to her son and his wife and take over babysitting their 6 month old.? Mom has returned to work and is pumping and when she runs out she will give formula.? 
> My friend called to inquire about a concern she found in the home. That her daughter in law is having wine after work each evening. She says the bottle which is "larger than a regular size bottle of wine" is over the course of 5 days down about 3/4.? She is concerned about the breastmilk passing the alcohol to the baby and causing the baby harm.
> My concerns was how much did Mom consume each time she drank. I also told her that sometime ago when I was breastfeeding people thought a glass of wine or beer in evening would help baby "sleep better" and might even help Mom increase her supply by "relaxing her".? Grandma is concerned that she may cause this baby to be "addicted".? I told her that if addiction and alcoholism run in family it's more genetic.? She approached her son who defended his wife and felt that it was not harmful...needless to say this is a rocky start to someone who moved herself 500 plus miles away from everyone she knows to be closer to her son and help establish a relationship with his new family.
This isn't information about breastfeeding and alcohol; rather, it's a 
comment about the who's and how's of communicating the information. I 
usually find it is better to talk directly to the breastfeeding mother. 
I realize there can be a few mitigating factors, such as partner calling 
because the mom is busy with a newborn baby (you know, those "she says 
to ask you if the baby seems to be swallowing...") but I've sometimes 
been bothered about the triangulation of discussing with concerned 
others. I think this situation is a bit delicate to be discussed with 
third parties, and wonder how far any suggestions would go without the 
mother having a supportive ear and encouragement. Would it be possible 
to give empathy messages to the grandmother ("You're concerned about 
your daughter-in-law and her baby...") and suggest that the mother could 
call you herself so that you could give her some encouragement during 
what sounds like a stressful period in her life? (I think I might be 
stressed in her situation, too ;-))

Jo-Anne

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