Dear Anne,

     I hope this helps.  The Myers-Briggs is a vocational aptitutde test that
evaluated people on four scales.  One of the scales is the thinking/feeling
scale.  People who make decisions based on feelings are "F" and people who
make decisions based on data/objective information are "T".  It's a continuum
and you can be anywhere on it, but most nurses are not surprisingly "F" .
     It sounds like the people who are scolding you are "F"  they are mostly
concerned about the feelings/perceptions of the people around them.  You on
the other hand, are mostly  concerned about the information/misinformation
that is being given.  That is a T trait.  One approach to reach an "F" is to
say,  "I don't want to make this mother/team member feel guilty/bad etc. but I
do want her to succeed at breastfeeding and I think this practice could be
harmful to her.  Is there another way to say/express this information  that
would work better?  This does two things.  1- she "feels" validated that you
are listening to his/her concerns.  Feelings are very important to an "F".  2-
it gets her involved in the problem solving process.  I have very strong T
traits and have learned this the hard way.

     Best wishes,

     Cindy Neary RN, LE