But, Kathy, I only said that meeting mom's needs is not my *Primary* goal. I didn't deny the need to meet moms where they are and to see to baby's needs within mom's possibilities and boundaries. Please do read well before getting angry, I was in no way trying to be offensive neither moms nor lactation consultants.
   
  Warmly,
   
  Gonneke, IBCLC, LLLL in southern Netherlands, woreking from son's PC, while mine won't wake up this morning

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    Gonneke writes: "I dare to disagree with some posters. My primary goal is 
not to help mom achieve her goals, but to help the infant/child help achieve 
her/his goals. I am a baby's advocate, not a woman's advocate. I write and speak 
on behalf of the children, to obtain their rights and to have their meets 
met."

When we don't advocate for mothers, when we dismiss their goals, needs, 
feelings, pain we serve neither the mother nor the baby. If I felt that I was 
not an advocate for women, I could not continue this work. Who am to presume 
to understand the pressures, life history, financial, social or inner 
resources of another women. 



  Met vriendelijke groet, 

Gonneke van Veldhuizen, IBCLC 
lactatiekundige
  

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