Hello -

I struggled with nursing aversion during pregnancy moreso than painful
nipples, but both can be pretty damaging to the nursing relationship! I
decided I could stand to nurse for about ten minutes per side, no longer.
So I told my daughter (about 16 m old at the time) I'd be counting to ten
to end nursing session the next day so she had a little bit of warning, and
then the next day I implemented a ten count. I initially would warn her
about a minute before I counted, and then take about two minutes to do the
counting, and then I'd end the session. She was very upset the first few
times but b/c I didn't give in she rapidly accepted this as her new normal.
Once she was fine with it I was able to count faster and sooner if I needed
to. Being able to end her sessions whenever I needed them to end was a
nursing-saver for us - it meant that I could say yes to her whenever she
asked b/c I knew I had some level of control. It allowed me to nurse her
through the pregnancy, and then came in very handy when her younger sister
arrived - if I needed her to completely empty my breasts I let her go for
longer, and if the baby decided to melt down in the middle of the older
nursling's session I could end it quickly. Sometimes it means that she has
barely latched on before I finish counting to ten (it's amazing how rapidly
you can count when you need to!) but she's OK with that.

I also recommend the book "Adventures in Tandem Nursing: Breastfeeding
During Pregnancy and Beyond" by Hilary Flower to anyone who has not weaned
prior to a subsequent pregnancy. It gives a really good perspective on all
potential outcomes - weaning when you or baby don't want to wean, and
tandem nursing when you didn't really think it was for you or you had your
heart set on it from day one.

Hilary Pollock
Breastfeeding supporter and mom of two

Date:    Thu, 7 Feb 2013 22:06:40 -0800

> From:    the juliest person you know <[log in to unmask]>
> Subject: Re: weaning
>
>
> There was an article in Mothering magazine in which a mother described
> weaning her clingy son by going completely opposite to all the advice.
> She started offering the breast ALL THE TIME.  The first 2 days, he took
>  her up on it every time, maybe 30 times.  By the 3rd day, he started
> refusing.  Once he knew he could have the breast whenever he wanted, he
> didn't want so much.  Perhaps this is something this family might like
> to try.
>
>
> Julie Tardos
>
>
> ~~~
> Let's eat Grandma!
> Let's eat, Grandma!
> Commas save lives.
>
>
> >________________________________
> >
> >Hi
>  everyoneJust wondering if anyone has any suggestions to offer for a
> mother who is desperately trying to wean her 19 month old son. She is 8
> weeks pregnant and has very sensitive nipples. She also thinks she needs
>  a break from breastfeeding before the baby arrives in September due to
>
>

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