In a message dated 6/1/03 3:11:45 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
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>  becoming a
> grandmother and hoping that your grandchildren will be breastfed for a
> loooong time. Maybe this is a whole new topic? Would be interesting to here
> from bf experts who have become grandmothers..............
>
> groetjes
>
> Sara Bernard
> (many years to go before becoming a grandmother, but still think about it
> from time to time!)
>

Not so long as you may believe 'til you find yourself there. I have one
grandchild, my oldest daughter's child and he was BF but with a bumpy start due to
emergency birth conditions. But all went well by the end of the first week. My
daughter said she wasn't sure how others made it with c-section recovery on
top of initial infant suck issues if their mothers weren't also LCs or LLLLs.
(Nothing, and I do mean nothing, ever has and can't imagine ever will make me
feel I've been some sort of a success until watching my baby mother her baby.)

My oldest son married last December. When he was getting serious, I asked if
they'd talked about having children and how they planned to feed and nurture
them. The day the ring was given and accepted I told my DIL-to-be I had one
question for her -- would she BF my grandchildren? (She was wise enough to answer
in the affirmative.)

Bottom line -- In reality, I figure I can provide info, answer questions and
offer any support any of my children need along such lines. But in the end the
decisions are theirs to make and related consequences are theirs to deal
with. I think my grown children come to me with questions because I don't go out
of my way to interfere. Just as I -- a fairly compliant, dutiful-type daughter
(at least back then) -- did not want my parent/mother to interfere and I would
have been less likely to go to my mother had she done so. And then my
relationship with each grandchild is up to me.

Karen G

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