Forwarding response from Diane Thornton:

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>In a message dated 96-11-21 09:03:04 EST, you write:
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><< I just never
> >thought about it much and think it all creates such a wonderful scenerio
> >in my head!  Whoever comes home first just picks up the baby and nurses!
> >I'm too tired to get up so the other mom nurses!!  I just never thought it
> >through. >>
>  Please forward this to that writer and maybe Lactnet too, for
>clarification.  Feel free to just forward this message so any with questions
>can e-mail me directly.
>
>This is a beautiful thought, however, please PLEASE remember that few moms
>are able to induce that kind of supply.  Most co-parents who perservere and
>bring in some milk are still playing "second fiddle" to birth mom.  I was
>just a very appealing pacifier to Max (baby #1) but he pitched a fit if he
>was hungry and I was the "container" at hand.  No wonder, Ginger had enough
>milk to feed several children.  She leaked 8 oz. per feeding until 6-8 mos
>and still leaked until Max was well over 2 years old.  Imagine how pathetic I
>thought my milk supply was in comparison.  The truly interesting thing is
>that I've fattened up both these boys for low these last 2 years and have
>only dripped, not even really leaked, ONE TIME!  Could it be the darn near
>round the clock tandem nursing?  I didn't even get engorged after Williams
>pre-term birth.  I thought my mature milk hadn't come in because I thought
>engorgement and leaking were the "sign."
>
>Summarizing, just as many mother's nursing experiences vary, so do
>co-parent/induced lacation experiences.  Some mothers have to use a SNS for
>months and months, other are able to bring in decent supplies *without*
>compromising their partner/baby's birth mom's milk supply.  I think
>co-parents would benefit from the book about adoptive nursing.  Any one else
>read it?  It wasn't printed when I tried to induce with Max.
>
>Diane Thornton ([log in to unmask])
>Memphis, TN
>LLL Leader
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