I think the point is that while Emma was able to manage that herself, she can't possibly assist all the moms who might face something similar.  That's where some on the list have pointed out that some infrastructure or protocols might be helpful. 

I think that following the basic rules of internet dating would go a long way in addressing these issues.  Don't exchange too much personal info, only meet in very public and well-populated places, etc.  After taking those precautions, the vast majority of milk-sharers will likely find themselves in the company of well-intentioned, honest, like-minded mamas (and any desired friendship, further donation, and sharing of personal info, etc can take place then).

If someone is faced with something they can't manage (harassing phone calls, stalking, etc), there are public service offices they can bring in, like the police. And of course, at first wind of something going awry, there will likely be a legion of Internet moms at the disposal of the victim.

Amy West, CLC 
social media and Internet savvy mama


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On Nov 24, 2010, at 8:10 AM, Morgan Gallagher <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

> Emma Kwasnica, founder of Eats on Feets, had personally opened the door to the police, after being reported for child abuse and for posting photographs of her engaging in sex acts with her own children on the internet.  The police thought her breastfeeding photos were very cute.
> 
> If any woman on the planet, is aware that women need support, it's the woman who has had to call laywers, to stop herself being stalked, and had to deal with being accused of a being a child pornographer for breastfeeding her own kids
> 
> Like I said: trust women, women are smart.  :-)
> 
> Morgan Gallagher
> 
> On 24/11/2010 12:59, heather wrote:
>>> That's where most us are disagreeing.  we think the women who are the volunteers, are just as intelligent and capable as everyone else.  :-)
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> Well, yes.
>> 
>> Most of them will be absolutely fine, capable, intelligent and strong in most circumstances.
>> 
>> A few circumstances will flummox the finest, most capable, most intelligent and strongest of them (see Susan's post about the four-year-old being sued for a sad accident). Some of them will not be quite so fine, capable and so on -  as I wasn't, some years ago, when I got embroiled with a persistent caller and needed the backing of my organisation to bale me out. Or one of the volunteers I work with, who had a series of unpleasant and threatening contacts from someone who didn't actually have a baby (apart from the one in her head), and who needed the organisation's protocols, and, crucially, personal support, to enable her to use her intelligence, capability and so on (and not leave the organisation).
>>> 
>>> Although there is quite a lot of evidence that the women setting up this organisation, are not turning to women who have done the work in other orgs, and sharing the collective wisdom, as they are being fed up labelled as young, naive and too inexperienced to know what they've gotten themselves into.
>> 
>> I won't continue to post publically about this, as I'm uncomfortable with the idea that I am somehow labelling anyone or dismissing them . EoF are probably aware of the risks by now if they have been reading, and think that because they can envisage dealing with them just fine (whatever the risks are? all of them?), there is no need to have support, already in place, for others.
>> 
>> To doubt the wisdom of that is not, I promise you, any reflection on my feminism (rock solid since the 1970s!), my belief in the value of woman-to-woman support and the potential of milk sharing , or my confidence in breastfeeding and in activism.
>> 
>> Heather Welford Neil
>> NCT bfc, tutor, UK
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