In a message dated 3/18/99 10:17:27 PM Central Standard Time,
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<< Now, I'm going to sound like I'm recanting, but "cue-feeding" or "go-with
 the flow", or "command feeding" is ideal, however...  After re-reading my
 post about all the rules and stipulations we put on the schedule thing, I
 talked to yet another mom whose baby was obviously drugged out of its mind
 and body.  The sleepy or drugged babies need their mothers to trust their
 instincts and feed them when the mom starts to feel her own cues (like
 leaking, fullness, a mental "click" that it's time).  This is after all, a
 two way street--the dance of bf. >>
No, no recant going on here Chris. You are right - we do need to remember that
most healthy babies who are birthed without drugs and not interfered with by
ferocious procedures or people, will cue their moms well. But the truth is
that not all babies can be "trusted" to know what is best for them in the
first days after their  births, for any number of reasons, although most are
iatrogenic in nature...In these instances, mom is the "grown-up", mom helps
set the stage, using her own cues as well, and yes, even the dreaded clock
when it's helpful as a tool, { :) } This is all preparation for the dance
being truly a cooperative activity.
Judy LeVan Fram, Brooklyn, NY