Thank you, Debbie!
Holly Mcdpadden, IBCLC (18 years)
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> On Mar 7, 2016, at 5:52 PM, Debbie Tobin <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
>
>
> Not sure where to even start, but I'll give it a shot:
>
> <<<<I actually thought the article was an excellent wake-up call for us as
> lactation consultants. I see many women who suffer from depression,
> feelings of inadequacy, and anxiety over their ability to breastfeed.>>>>
>
> Do you mean their *Inability?...or maybe *Unwillingness?
>
> <<<<We are not miracle workers>>>>
>
> speak for yourself
>
> <<<<and sometime breastfeeding exclusively is just not possible.>>>>
>
> less than 2-3% of women worldwide, ...they can't all be in your
> neighborhood or my neighborhood
>
> <<<<I wonder if sometimes the older generation of lactation consultants
> were either blessed with a mostly trouble-free adjustment period>>>>
>
> this would be hil-ar-ious, ...if not for being so frightfully uninformed
>
> <<<<or are just forgetting the stress, the exhaustion, the pain, and the
> confusion of that first few months of newly found motherhood.>>>>
>
> besides Not forgetting, who do you think LCs work with everyday?...to
> clarify, the answer is: new moms who are stressed, exhausted, in pain, and
> confused
>
> <<<<I think the best way to be successful-- and ensure the best possible
> outcomes for moms AND babies-- is to support mothers in their decision
> without judgment and paternalistic (maternalistic) attitudes.>>>>
>
> gently conveying the truth that breastfeeding and/or breastmilk feeding is
> Best, for a myriad of reasons, is not the same as being paternalistic
>
> <<<<Yes, breast milk and breastfeeding have amazing health benefits. But
> when it is not working for either physiological or psychological reasons, we
> should not assume that the benefit of breast milk outweighs the damage to
> mom's psyche and confidence as a mother.>>>>
>
> How does helping her fail boost her confidence as a mother?
>
> <<<< Breastfeeding can be one of life's greatest experiences.>>>>
>
> Please read Pam's post regarding the purpose of Bf
>
> <<<<But the sad truth is that it just isn't for some mothers.>>>>
>
> but the sad truth is: waaay too often it's by choice, ...wrong choice,
> poor judgement, self-centered, uneducated, not supported, surrounded by
> ignorant health care providers
>
> <<<<I hope that we can support all mothers in any way we can. And for a
> mother who is in severe pain, does not feel bonded to her baby, or simply
> does not enjoy breastfeeding, I feel it is our duty to support her by giving
> her permission to NOT breastfeed.>>>>
>
> Giving her permission to Not Bf would Not be my first thoughts or actions,
> they would be more along the lines of:
>
> Fix the pain (over the years you will often hear the words "miracle
> -worker")
> Help fix the bonding, along with other Bf educated HCPs
> Help mom learn to enjoy Bf, or at least pumping to provide EBM
>
>
> Debbie Tobin, RN, BSN
> IBCLC 20 yrs
> Northern Virginia
>
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