In a message dated 9/8/2007 7:42:15 PM Eastern Daylight Time, 
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I often wonder if the babies are not so much mad "at" the breast, as 
they are frustrated by their own disorganization "at" the breast, caused 
by the conflict between actually wanting to breastfeed, that innate 
desire and drive, but finding it difficult to follow thru on those 
instincts because of being disorganized by the negative associations of 
being there (from prior shoving etc).  Mom also usually looks pretty 
upset, but it's not because she doesn't want to breastfeed, but because 
she desperately wants to, and is so frustrated and upset by her 
experience. I think baby is the same way. In any event, it seems to help 
to interpret it this way to the mother, that the baby isn't angry at her 
or her breast, but is frustrated, just like she is, because he wants to 
do it, but his frustration is getting in his way. Vicious cycle.



Dear Friends:
 
Many have expressed serious doubt and concern at presentations I gave about 
baby's triad of behaviours, as old feelings clear. Babies start to crawl, then 
have an emotional outburst (rage, pathos, fear, pain), then rest. This 
cathartic triad of behaviours facilitates breastfeeding recovery.
 
How wonderful it is that more are seeing babies have a somatoemotional 
release! 
 
As for Tina's lovely comment that I cut and pasted, I am sure she is right. 
AND, every baby will have something different to say.............because every 
baby and every sitatuation is different.
 
As with milk supply, follow the baby's lead. All  the mother has to do is 
offer a safe, warm environment with a loving heartbeat. Baby will do the rest.
 
warmly,
Nikki Lee RN, MS, Mother of 2, IBCLC, CCE, CIMI
_http://www.breastfeedingalwaysbest.com/_ 
(http://www.breastfeedingalwaysbest.com/) 
www.myspace/AdonicaLee



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