Kim,

This child would be in really bad shape if she/he weren't being BF.

The mom's/baby's allergist is the best person to advise her on what foods
would be the least likely to trigger a dangerous reaction in her baby.
Probably low-protein foods, but with anaphylactic reactions on the table, I
wouldn't play around with "suggestions."

Is the "going out" the tempting thing for her, or eating something from the
"no-no" list? If it's the "going out" part, that could be accomplished while
she stays on the careful eating plan.

If she wants to eat something dangerous for her baby, I'd strongly support
her waiting until this child is much, much older and weaned. She may need
support/encouragement for the idea that moms DO things for their babies.
Part of that DOING may be a semi-permanent (or at least long term) change in
eating habits, social life changes, and how her time is allocated. That's
what mothering is all about. Children, even healthy ones without allergies,
are not convenient. We don't have children to make our lives simpler.

Life is a balance of what we "like" and what's good for us. I love peanuts,
but strictly avoid them due to allergies. Nothing I eat, no matter how
delicious, is worth an asthma attack or a 24-hour migraine. Even peanut oil
triggers a reaction in me. I also have had to give up all mint, soy, red
wine, legumes and severely limit chocolate and dairy. I gave up dairy
products and caffeine for several years when my baby daughter reacted to
them. Once I stopped resenting this "restriction," I realized that I felt
better without these foods too. The diet changes necessary to keep my baby
healthy and happy were much better for ME too.

Linda J. Smith, BSE, FACCE, IBCLC
Bright Future Lactation Resource Centre
Dayton, OH USA
http://www.bflrc.com