My little informal study years ago with early discharge moms found that 
babies begin to gain again by day 4.  If not, something was a problem, 
mom's, baby's or both.  Whether it is TT or infrequent feeds or missing cues 
etc.  I still feel that if a baby is not gaining by 1 week, even  if it is 
just from discharge weight back to birth weight it needs investigating.

Personally, I would lay off discussing whether or not her breasts are 
adequate.  She will only feel inadequate and the downward spiral begins. PS. 
I have widely spaced breasts that sort of point outward.  Didn't seem to 
affect my supply.  Putting that seed in her mind isn't helpful, you need to 
wait and see.

Rule 1: Feed the baby
Rule 2. Maintain or increase the milk supply
Rule 3. Get help (and I don't mean grandmom :-(  You are too emotionally 
involved and it's your DIL.  It's not the same as me helping my daughters!

There must be an LC or LLLL near MA who will come over.

I'm sorry to sound so pushy, but I think you need to step back, let skin to 
skin, frequent feeds, pumping, & clipping tongue work.
Take a deep breath.  Sincerely, Pat in SNJ 

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