Please look for a meaning other than that which you wish to see. I write
from personal experience. With my first child my wife CHOSE [not at my
behest] to express enough for me to do the night feed. After she expressed I
cleaned the pump etc. After the feed I cleaned the bottle etc. The birth was
difficult and labour very long and I think that supporting one's wife in
these circumstances is eminently reasonable. Once she recovered it was easy
to 'wean onto' total BF. I accept it might not be so for all of course.....
With our second she was exclusively BF until my wife started a course and I
used flexi time to stay home and look after her [0830 - 1230 on a Tuesday].
She never took to a latex
nipple and life was not so easy....[the contents were again EBM].

I actually found it WAS a good way to bond - but no, I am not some sad case
who never changed a nappy / did a bath / massage etc. I find this campaign
to vilify anything I say rather boring and think that persistently
criticising aspects of my life of which you have zero knowledge rather
surprising. I know other fathers who have fed pumped milk and have also
found it
satisfying. I feel sad that we have demarcation lines where feeding is mums
job and bathing is dads. My wife and I were both multi-skilled and have thus
enjoyed all aspects of our childrens development!

Despite this sabotage attempt my daughter was BF for nearly 2 years with no
problems.

Tony Knox

----- Original Message -----
From: "Alexis Martin Neely" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Tuesday, June 26, 2001 1:02 AM
Subject: Re: LACTNET Digest - 25 Jun 2001 - Special issue (#2001-466)


> Tony Wrote:
>
> >Although unless the bottle is introduced early it is less satisfying to
> >give
> >EBM via bottle as the baby will be less keen on an artificial nipple.
> >Introduce early and problems are eliminated. I would advocate EBM feeds
as
> >being a good way for dads to bond too....
>
> After this comment you can no longer truthfully state that you are a
> breastfeeding supporter.  Introducing an early bottle is one way to almost
> guarantee that a mother will have problems with breastfeeding and that her
> duration of breastfeeding will be cut short.  I feel terrible for your
> patients who are relying on you, their doctor, for helpful advice and
> support because what they are getting is neither - what they are getting
if
> this is the advice you are giving out is sabotage of their breastfeeding
> relationship.
>
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