LACTNET Archives

Lactation Information and Discussion

LACTNET@COMMUNITY.LSOFT.COM

Options: Use Forum View

Use Monospaced Font
Show Text Part by Default
Show All Mail Headers

Message: [<< First] [< Prev] [Next >] [Last >>]
Topic: [<< First] [< Prev] [Next >] [Last >>]
Author: [<< First] [< Prev] [Next >] [Last >>]

Print Reply
Subject:
From:
Jeanette Panchula <[log in to unmask]>
Reply To:
Lactation Information and Discussion <[log in to unmask]>
Date:
Sun, 1 Jun 2003 20:50:26 -0700
Content-Type:
text/plain
Parts/Attachments:
text/plain (55 lines)
I'm the mother of 2 boys and a girl - the second son, Alex was the one who
years ago said he wanted to start a "COLiC" group - Children of Lactation
Consultants - and posed the question "when do you bring up to the girl
you're dating that you expect her to breastfeed your children?"

Well...pass 10 years, my oldest son, Larry, is dating a girl who, when she
hears me talking to a mom and asks "doesn't everyone breastfeed?"  (That
was a keeper!)

Pass 5 years, Lynann and I have a great relationship - however, when the
first grandchild was born, I was too far away (her mom was with her).  She
had some problems at first, but Larry was the supportive husband and would
call me on the phone...they co-slept, he is a very active, involved father
(bathing baby, getting up and bringing him to her, etc.)

However, there IS pressure when you're the daughter-in-law of an LC...and
even though she was still having some nipple soreness at 2 weeks when I
came to the baptism, I offered but she said "Oh it's better." and she NEVER
breastfed in front of me.  Even later on, when we were out together, she
went to a dressing room to breastfeed.  But she breastfed Justin for over
20 months...and is a wonderful, involved mom who really enjoys her child.
 It's a pleasure to see, especially as I have so many challenges in my own
work with the moms who have so many stressors in their lives they rarely
take pleasure in just playing on the floor with their babies.

Now we have a second, grandchild - a gorgeous granddaughter - and Lynann
has still hesitated to breastfeed in front of me - but the Family Bed and
their parenting still brings tears to my eyes...

Now Alex is engaged - poor girl, has a lot to live up to - and it ISN'T ME!

It IS difficult to not put pressure on the wives of our sons - our
relationship with them must be more important than even this, most
heartfelt of priorities.  If we don't get along with them, chances are we
won't see much of our sons OR our grandchildren.

So the same rule applies with them as with our other interactions with moms
- offer information, provide support, and RESPECT their decisions as being
what is right for them.

Jeanette Panchula, BSW, RN, PHN, IBCLC
NEW e-mail address: [log in to unmask]

             ***********************************************

To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail
To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest)
To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet
All commands go to [log in to unmask]

The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned
LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM)
mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to:
http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html

ATOM RSS1 RSS2