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>What does this mother want? What are her goals? Is she prepared for detours
>and flexible enough to deal with them? Is she creating a support network,
>because she's likely to ask herself every single day for months, "Why am I
>doing this!"
>
>I know mothers of triplets that fully fed them from the get-go for several
>months and then continued through natural weaning with supplements and/or
>solids. I know mothers who fully BF after an initial period of struggle to
>breast due to the usual preterm birth and related issues--some didn't get one
>or more babies to breasts until months after birth. I know mothers who
>partially BF due to the previous or to maintain sanity. And I know mothers
>who human-milk-fed only for many, many months. "Realistic" can be a
>subjective word!
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>Some of this has to do with mother's short- and long-term goals. Commitment
>of mother is everything. Other of it has to do with circumstances with birth
>and the three unique persons incubating inside her. And we can't know about
>them until they arrive.  One thing I do know is that if she's committed, if
>she's patient, if she's persistent, she WILL get these babies to breast.
>
>Karen
>

Thanks for this Karen. I was going to approach it this way, similar to
how I'd approach it with twins. But I just wanted to see if you had more
ideas. I hate setting moms up to believe something is possible if it
truly isn't! But I also hate to sound as if I don't have faith in the
process..... It's a complicated position to find oneself in.

I also like the idea of three different "dancers" to learn to dance
with. I may even use that analogy with mom.

Oh, BTW, here's some interesting news. I will have a graduate nursing
student who is becoming a FNP with me for the next few weeks. What an
interesting lesson this is likely to be for her! I'll be sure to
reference your work for her.

Susan

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