In a message dated 4/26/2006 11:49:32 A.M. Central Standard Time,  
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We need  to remember that new moms 
are in the formal  acquisition of  parenting, and want to do it RIGHT.  They 
want rules, and  they  will listen to everyone -- and get horrendously 
confused 
if they get   differing opinions.  



I also couldn't see the whole article just a paragraph. But did want to  
comment on what Jan Barger said.
 
This is what I hear over and over in LLL mtgs! Moms want to do it right and  
ask which way is "right". They tell me about how every nurse that comes in 
tells  them something different and every book they read says something different 
too  and then of course they come to LLL and hear something different again! 
Who to  believe, who is right they want to know. They feel frustrated. We 
often hear the  phrase babies don't come with instructions and I think the reason 
they don't and  can't is because mom/babies/families are different and there 
would have to be a  million books.
 
I try to convey that the "right way" and the "rules" (ie bf 8-12 times and  
other things like that) are guidelines for the general mom/baby pair but then  
*you* and *baby* find what works for you both and something always works  
differently for everyone. Try and find your inner voice and your baby's voice  and 
follow it after hearing all the many different things about breastfeeding. 
 
I try to point how each pumping mom has their own way of how long and often  
they need to pump or how one mom found she introduced a pacifier at 3 wks with 
 no problems while another mom found she couldn't without baby not latching  
right. All different choices and all moms "right" in what they do.
 
 
Kim Ann Lorber, LLL Leader
Quad Cities, IA/IL
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