Hi All,
Laurie writes:

> I also find it is not so simple to say one will 'meet the mother where she
> is.' Very very often I am told by the mother that she wants to do both
> breast and bottle. She then leaves the baby to be fed by the nurses most
> feeds and gets in an occasional bf. I also am told by the mom that she
will
> start bf when she gets home (she is shy, too uncomfortable, worried about
> pain meds, feels has no milk yet). How can you just meet her where she
> is???? So I have an agenda to educate and really try to (gently,
> respectfully) convince the mother to initiate bf early, exclusively bf,
room
> in etc. Of course I will not force the mother to do this. It is a fine
line
> sometimes, I will concede.

I agree - it is a fine line.  It is not always simple to meet the mom where
she is.  The trick is to know when you have gone as far as you can and must
meet the mom where she is whether you agree or not.  I have, many times,
gone away from a consult or phone discussion with a mom wanting to beat my
head into a brick wall because "I" know the mom can do it - but the problem
is "She" doesn't.  For whatever reason, she doesn't trust herself enough to
go all the way and fully succeed at full at the breast breastfeeding.
Frustrating...

With you Laurie - more times than I care to remember...

Warmly,
Jaye

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