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>BTW how do you broach the subject of nursing a new baby to a recently
>weaned toddler, because we're gonna have to break the news sooner or later.
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>Right now we're concentrating on making nice to mommy's tummy.

Nofia, I don't know how old your toddler is; but my older child did suffer
for a while when she saw the baby feeding.  I told Lia (4 years old) that
when she was a baby all of the milk was for her and no one else could have
any.  Now this milk was for Alison.  I also told her that the feelings she
was having were  "jealous" and extra loving would help her to feel better.
Any time she felt jealous she was to tell me and ask for extra loving.  Of
course, she "overdid" it for a while, but I tried to come through.  I also
took the opportunity when Alison was fed and all taken care of to tell her
that she would need to wait now because it was Lia's time to.... Lia would
beam, knowing that she was getting the attention now and the baby was waiting.

We talked about different things that made the "milkies wanters" go away.
Sometimes it was a special drink, sometimes a story ( I got good at making
up stories on the spot.), sometimes it was a record to sing along with.  I
must say that the nighttime feedings were the only ones that were calm and
focused for a while.

I'll bet others have suggestions, especially for younger toddlers.

Pat Gima, IBCLC
Milwaukee