Well-said, Susan! You've put into good words the very same thoughts I have
on the subject of presenting info and then letting the other person decide
what they'll do.

I've always felt that this approach is the only one that pays due and
appropriate respect to the "other", in whatever relationship or situation
that might be. It recognizes and acknowledges that the other person is
indeed fully capable of making appropriate decisions once they've been given
the relevant facts, even though they may start out with a lack of knowledge
in a given area. To do otherwise is outstandingly arrogant, I think.

"I now have an informed consent for my private clients that says that I am a
consultant
and educator, that I do not make decisions for them, that I trust their
wisdom and will support their choices."

Can I steal that idea? I love the idea of putting it in writing and having
clients sign it - never thought of making it that explicit, though I
certainly try to express it verbally.

Cathy Bargar, RN, IBCLC
Ithaca NY

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