There is so much to all of this, it's not just black & white.  She choose
the career, made the committment and got blindsided by motherhood.  Really,
don't we all.  I don't think anyone has a glimmer before they really get
the baby in their arms.  I think the service went out of their way to
accomodate her and she choose to make an issue out of it.  Lots of moms
work and nurse in today's world.  It's not ideal, but it is a fact of
modern life.  It has almost become a gift, a privilege to be able to stay
at home with your babies.  I'm not sure who is warped, parents or society,
but I have a sneaky suspicion!
When the Gulf War was on, I was so sad to see moms and very young babies
separated.  One mom even had guys in her group volunteer to go in her place
and the service wouldn't let them.
When we aren't in a crunch, when it's not a flaming issue, I think we need
to establish the rules for motherhood in the service.  What accomodations
can be, will be made.  Six weeks isn't long enough.  3 mo  or one year more
realistic or transfer to another area/job or temporary leave for one year.
I hate to see women having to make such choices.  Pat in SNJ