If you purchase the book that was recently recommended, you will see
pictures of me with my fifth child, Joseph.

There are some things in this book, however, that I feel a need to
caution women about.

The suggestion to add more water to the formula for the supplementer,
with the assurance that the water will not hurt the baby and that the
baby will nurse more to make up the calories, is potentially dangerous.

Another suggestion that would very likely be detrimental is the idea
that a baby who is a little older when adopted and hesitant to take the
breast be fed with a spoon or eyedropper, and not given anything to suck
on in an attempt to force him to nurse.

The number one objective of  adoptive nursing is good mothering.  Both
of these tactics focus on milk production and satisfying the mother's
need to feel like she is an adequate person because she can produce
milk. Neither of them puts the physical or emotional well-being of the
baby at the forefront, where it belongs.

I feel a little funny talking down this book, which was written by a
friend of mine.  But I can't, in good faith, not caution people about
things that I know to be potentially harmful to babies.

Aloha,
Darillyn