In a message dated 3/17/2007 3:28:09 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
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(Of course, we did
not see them 24/7 so what was shown may well have been edited to reinforce
the view the nanny wanted to enforce.) It looked like the only way the
toddler could have time with mommy was to nurse.
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hear, hear! i, for one, found the editing process *highly* suspect when it
appeared that the 14 month old was nursing constantly, 24/7. i loved how they
made her seem like she had absolutely no other identity or function as
anything other than a barnacle on her mother's breast until she was weaned from it
and then
?!put on a bottle?! at 14 mos. (why is a baby too old for the breast but
not a bottle???) once on the bottle, she suddenly blooms overnight into a
happy, vibrant little social butterfly. @@
(in case it doesn't translate globally, that was an eyeroll).
i also loved how they made it look like she was weaned cold turkey in one
easy 5 minute session!! it was heartbreaking to watch and the only redeeming
thing about that sort of blatant misrepresentation is that (i think and hope)
when other moms feel that maybe it is unhealthy, emotionally debilitating and
selfish of them to still be nursing *their* toddlers, and *they* try to wean
in one easy 5 minute session a la supernanny, it doesn't work.
all that said, i also don't think this family was truly practicing
attachment parenting...i think they had fallen into a habit of doing what was easiest
for them initially. all the AP families i know have had to learn about what
they are doing in order to defend the instincts they continue to parent by and
have to justify starting from the 1st time they are interrogated for
bedsharing or confronted for nursing past a cpl of months. i got the feeling this
mother was truly uncomfortable, defensive and ambivalent about continuing to
breastfeed her 14 month old. even a fledgling AP mother would have been able to
rattle of the list of '101 reasons to bf' as soon as supernanny questioned
it! (nor would she ever have subjected her children to that kind of
humiliation on a show so demeaning to children!) more's the pity she couldn't defend
bfing, b/c it was one of the few things she had *hit upon* (pun intended) that
was truly good for her children. i think if she'd been given some education
about bfing and a sling, she could have and would have gone on to nurse
proudly for who knows how much longer. but then poor supernanny wouldn't have been
the hero of that day. i did like how suppernanny said, 'this is ridiculous -
she is hitting the children to get them to stop hitting! but alas, that was
to be the 1st and last thing she and i agreed on. i said so in my emailed
letter to abc, too. ;-P
~jacqui gruttadauria, bsw
near detroit, michigan
(where i can't keep my bfing 14 month old out of the other children's hair
and projects when she isn't a barnacle on my breast...)
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