I am writing mostly as a rant. I had a mom come to see on Friday because 
her 8 month old abruptly "weaned" 6 days prior. As i took the history  
the mom mentions the baby had been biting her so she baby's nose till 
she would let go. when this failed to work she flicked the baby in the 
lip when she bit, well the little girl only nursed on time after that 
and only for a second. now the gets in the position but when she sees 
the breast she arches away and screams.
The mom and i had a nice discussion on nursing strikes and what i saw as 
the baby's response to the mom flicking her, we talked about co-bathing 
and non pressure nursing opportunities and trying to nurse her in her sleep.
We also discussed how important  it was for her daughter to regain her 
comfort in nursing and also in her mother and how she may be a very 
sensitive child.
well, i called her today, because she failed to call me. And she said 
she had quit, they tried the bathing thing once and it didnt work and 
she just didnt have the time to deal with it.
If you could just see the sorrow and fear in that baby's eyes it just 
broke my heart. I wonder if she will go on to nurse her babies, i wonder 
if she will reconnect with her mother.
When i was hanging up with the mom she apologized to me, i told her i 
was there to offer support and information, and her choice wasnt about 
me, it was her choice for her and her daughter and she needed to chose 
what was best for them.
but ladies i must tell you i hung up that phone and cried, those sad 
little brown eyes haunt me.
i dont know what else i could have said or done to make the mom see the 
importance of not letting the nursing strike be her weaning.
WarmLLLy
katie (i dont think i will ever admit my name is katrina) LLLL, IBCLC

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