In my experience, this need to control the baby and child is NOT NEW - my
MOTHER read and followed the tight schedule created by Dr. Spock and others
in the 40's and 50's.even to the point of putting me down in a crib where I
cried until I threw up.  She was overwhelmed when she came to my home and
saw how I handled my babies - but instead of criticizing me, she supported
me!

 

Mothers have ALWAYS had a lot of demands put on them - when they weren't
working outside the home (my mother was a teacher) they still felt they had
to "control" and "discipline" babies.

 

That was one of the big messages that I heard (in the 70's) ONLY from La
Leche League:

-          Babies will be babies, 

-          BABY the baby, 

-          there is a reason why your baby..

.and most of all: this is not "forever".

 

No matter how much we work as IBCLCs to improve "breastfeeding" - it is the
attitude about mothering and infants that needs to me addressed at the same
time, otherwise moms try to "breastfeed like a bottle-feeder" as a mom once
described to me.  

 

We need to communicate the need to "bottle feed like a breastfeeder"
instead!  Maybe that's why Baby Friendly is adding education to formula
feeders to their 10 steps.

 

 

Jeanette Panchula, BA-SW, RN, PHN, IBCLC

 

California, USA

 


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