Dear Friends:
    Pamela has described beautifully a typical scenario.  Thanks, Pamela.
    I feel the problem with women going against their desires, wants, or
feelings starts far sooner than in the childbearing decade. It starts as toddlers,
and in schools, where little girls are encouraged to disregard their
feelings. How is this done? What messages do they receive?
    "Eat on schedule." "Mommy loves you and has to leave you for 40-50 waking
hours a week. Don't be sad; you are in the best daycare." "This is what is
valued in school: verbal and mathematical intelligence. Not artistic or social
or intuitive intelligence." "This is how women should look."
     Then when little girls get big,  because they have been shown the
constant use of infant feeding prostheses (THANK YOU Rachel!) from birth, they don't
want a breast nurturing relationship. They have no clue what it is. They have
been told for generations to listen to the Doctor, as the one true voice.
They have been bombarded with messages about having it all, having lots of stuff,
being productive (which is taken in the male sense of the word, i.e. , by
being at employment). They are reading that cesarean section on demand is the
safest way to go, because vaginal birth is so dangerous.
    No one tells them that it is routine technology that makes birth
dangerous. No one is connecting those dots for them. The only solution to any problem
is technology, at least here in the States.
    Add to that constant messages of fear and doom. The latest is being
afraid of green onions after the hepatitis outbreak in the States. We are taught to
be afraid of our food as a carrier of disease; we are not taught to grow
healthy food, or to keep the air and water clean for our own good.
   Natural?? What does that mean to young women anymore? Where can they see
it?
    warmly,
Nikki Lee RN, MS, Mother of 2, IBCLC, CIMI, CCE, craniosacral therapy
Adjunct faculty, Union Institute and University, Maternal and Child Health:
Lactation Consulting
Supporting the WHO Code and the Mother Friendly Childbirth Initiative

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