I too feel just as bad when I see a bottle in a baby's mouth as I do when I
see a mother slap or even yelling obsenities at her child.  I was reminded
recently about being to judgemental.  A co-worker recently told me her story
about failing with bf with her 3 children.  Ea time she started out well only
to end up with a baby not gaining etc around 3 wks, she did the SNS, pumping,
etc.  Very frustrated and feels like a failure as a mom.  Her husband had a
vasectomy, but she thinks about a reversal as a chance of "trying one more
time to do it right".  This is a very intelligent mom, RN,  natural
childbirth advocate, and a great nurse to post-partum moms.  I don't know
more details of her problems as I was out having my own babies and not their
to help.  But I feel my fellow LC's did their jobs well.  She doesn't need
more guilt and some of the "that's a shame" comments would not be
appropriate.  I openly tell people what I do.  If they have questions or
comments then I say more.  Shame to me is something  "bad" done to someone.
 I agree moms should feel quilt if they do not try.  But I am not the one to
point that out.
Evonne