Yasmin writes:

I am  also beginning to see a correlation between evening fussiness/crying 
of baby  and not being able to cluster feed for nutrition and comfort. What 
do others  think? 




~~~  
I think this is a point worth looking at: when a person does not get  their 
needs met, why do we label them "fussy"? There is so much reframing to be  
done: A baby who is seeking the breast has a need, and when their need is 
not  met, they respond, they ask/tell us louder or more obviously what they 
need.  When we deny it, or ignore it, or try other things that will not meet 
it, we  cannot label them "fussy". They are "hungry". There are all kinds of 
hunger,  yes? There are all kinds of things that happen naturally when a 
baby goes to  breast, as was pointed out. And they are giving the mom the 
opportunity to  access relaxation and connection as well. When we break the 
process down, the  system doesn't function. Bottles for food/hydration, pacifiers 
for  sucking/calming, these things being to replace the holistic behavior 
that is a  mom and baby's "default" setting at this tender time in their 
lives. One thing I  find myself doing a lot is trying to help parents see that 
their baby is healthy  and competent, asking for something important, and we 
don't always have to know  the exact nature, we just know that many times, 
breastfeeding will meet whatever  the need(s) is/are. I suggest that anyone 
who is hungry, in need of something,  should protest when they don't get it. 
:) Don't we want our children to know  they matter, and they are much better 
prepared for life if they know this? It's  not spoiling, it's everyone 
being valued, and balances and capabilities  shift as befits their stage of life.
 
Peace,
Judy  

Judy LeVan  Fram, PT, IBCLC, LLLL
Brooklyn, NY,  USA
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